Comments on: My Unimpressive life

By: Techievampire

Techievampire — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:45:36 +0000

Late to this but here goes. Wedding: I’d say screw the rest of your family and get your Grandfather’s blessing and include him somehow. That will be something you’ll remember for the rest of your life. Screw the others. Find a small church near him and do it! It ain’t about a ring, a dress, or a huge church wedding. Unfortunately weddings are heroin for women. How many huge wonderful weddings are held and years later a sad silent divorce is the end? I’m wearing a $20 dollar sterling silver wedding ring which I love as if it were a diamond. Who says Tom can’t get you a diamond later on? An anniversary present? It’s not how big it is.. it’s what it represents! Richard and I were in the same place you and Tom are now. We couldn’t afford a huge wedding, hell he was unemployed! So we made do, did what we could, and we’ve been married for.. 11 years in April. Marriage is about supporting each other through the rough times in life. Congratulations! If you’re going through some of those rough times now and you’re both sticking it out then that’s a good sign for the relationship!

Don’t compare yourself to your sister. You’re NOT your sister! And it seems that quite a few people care about you…

Don’t allow yourself to sink into the hell-hole of judging yourself by others expectations of you. If you’re happy doing what you want… screw them! The best thing I ever did was quit worrying about what other people thought about me!

By: Megan

Megan — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 15:56:23 +0000

Hey Krissy,
I usually don’t read your blogs, or anyone’s for that matter, but I was clicking around and found this… Sorry you were having a rough day (not really sure how to figure out what day this was… I’m not really good at navigating these blog things!). I do want you to know that you are loved by us, (I think I can speak for Ian too…) Sorry If it may not appear that way in the amount of contact we have or how much we talk or any of that, but you are thought of and loved! As Ian posted on fb we were reading your story during our Thanksgiving travels and I am impressed and am enjoying the story so far and can’t wait to get to the end. I’ll tell you more after we finish what we have (we are on page 40ish.

About the wedding stuff and rings, I didn’t want a diamond… ’cause a lot of diamonds come from mines in Africa retrieved by little kids, who don’t get paid a lot obviously and work under really dangerous conditions where the children often get injured or killed. Maybe that would quelch Tom’s mindset on getting a diamond for you. I think Ian got my amethyst (b/c I like purple) ring online at http://www.antiquejewlerymall.com It makes new rings from antique patterns, with whatever stone you want. you could check it out.

Also you don’t have to wait 6 years, that seems like eternity to get to be with the one you love… I think we got married 6 months after we were engaged. Once we knew, we didn’t want to wait. The wedding day is about you and Tom, not everyone else under the sun… I could get on my soapbox but I won’t, just suffice to say the whole wedding industry is a racket (sp?) to get people to spend money they don’t have on one day, when what really matters is the marriage and how two people are suppose to survive the pressures of life. So many people spend too much money on one event and spend nothing on the things that matter like, how a couple communicates, or how they resolve conflict or how they listen to each other (I’m not saying you two don’t think about these things, I’m just going off on the whole industry!). Anyway a wedding day should be about what matter to the both of you and what you two want and not what the world says you should have, or do. OK enough of that.

Not sure if any of this is helpful but those are just some thoughts.

Oh another thought I had while reading your post is that your job really does matter… think about all those people out there whose perscriptions YOU process…they are pretty much dependent you to get their drugs, and for them to be correct, and which can be life sustaining or at least very important for maintaining their health, your job matters to them, even though you will never see or meet them.

Ok I think that’s enough for now, hope you are feeling well today… *hugs*

By: Misty

Misty — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 10:05:45 +0000

Thank you. I find that if you know what you like and start working sort of early and can enlist help, it’s way easier. I say start early, but we decided in January to just move it up and we got married in March… so we were hurried, but it all worked out. Doing it on St. Pat’s was actually really helpful. Chose a color scheme (all green, pretty much any green!) for us and made the $1 dog pillow work!

By: smileygirl18

smileygirl18 — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 10:01:14 +0000

Wow! That is impressive. So far I’ve paid for shoes. Mom bought the dress and stuff. Congrats on the inexpenisve win!

By: Misty

Misty — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 09:56:40 +0000

Yup, dress from Bridal warehouse (like $100)
Andy’s suit from a going out of business clothier (about $150?)
Church rental (around 200–it might have only been $100 with a deposit of $50 ahead of time… They gave us the wrong quote at first, so it’s hard to be sure.)
Flower girl dress from going out of business clothier (about $40)
Andy’s ring ($99 from Riddles online)
My rings (total about $250–around $75 from the actual wedding fund since my engagement ring didn’t come from it ) from 2 different places here
Bridesmaid bought her own dress, Best Man wore his own suit, so did my dad
Ring bearers pillow ($1, from Target’s Dollar spot. It’s actually a dog toy, it squeaked) fake rings on it like $2?
flowers ($15 from Hyvee, I bought 2 or 3 bouquets)
Ribbon tying them from Michal’s $3
makeup from Mary Kay.. b/c I went to David’s Bridal I got a free consult/party and a bunch of free stuff from them
Jewelry was a necklace my grandma gave me (old and blue) earrings were $5
Shoes were under $20… added insoles, so maybe like $25 by the end?
Andy’s mom did the ribbons on the pews in the chapel, and got the petals for the flower girl. Flower girl’s mom brought the basket.
The flower girl, the ringbearer and the piano player are all kids I’ve babysat for years.
Reception was at my favorite restaurant, they don’t have a rental fee as long as you get food, so we got like maybe $80 in appetizers… and all of that is rounding up… so under $990, I think… and we had extra cash at the end of the night so we stopped at hyvee and got some stuff after the reception, before going to the hotel.
Oh, and the marriage license was $35 here. I might have just paid that out of my account rather than the wedding fund. not sure.
Misty´s last blog ..The one where I talk about Bawls.

By: Sarah @ TM2TS

Sarah @ TM2TS — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 08:53:36 +0000

See!! Told you!!
And I do agree with Missy. She’s just jealous. Honestly, that’s exactly how it sounds. She sounds like a spoiled little child, to be honest.
Sarah @ TM2TS´s last blog ..Pictures … Thanksgiving Cooking

By: smileygirl18

smileygirl18 — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 08:48:42 +0000

I do think she is jealous. I was supposed to be on low carb to lower my triglycerides. I’m also supposed to exercise 30 minutes a day. Not happening. lol. Some of your pictures were gorgeous! You spent less than $1000? Wow! I’m impressed. Thanks.

By: Misty

Misty — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 08:35:13 +0000

Tell your sister to suck it cuz you lost weight without even trying. Why do you need the low carb if you’re losing anyway? It’s not healthy to lose too much too fast.
However you want your wedding is the way to do it. That’s why it’s your wedding. A friend told me “The wedding day is the bride’s day, everyone else, even the groom just gets to attend.” This day is about your love.
You might be surprised how cheaply you can do a nice wedding, or how quickly. Andy and I spent less than $1,000 and we had a beautiful day. You don;t even have to invite your sister. I didn’t invite my brother.

I planned each charted course -
Each careful step along the byway,
And more, much more than this,
I did it my way.

Yes, there were times, I’m sure you knew,
When I bit off more than I could chew,
But through it all, when there was doubt,
I ate it up and spit it out.
I faced it all and I stood tall
And did it my way.
Misty´s last blog ..The one where I talk about Bawls.

By: Sarah @ TM2TS

Sarah @ TM2TS — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 08:30:11 +0000

Misty had a church wedding, but something small. You might ask her about it (GeekLover on Plurk).

Honestly, talk to him. Make him listen when it comes to the ring. Josh is the same way. I’m wanting to upgrade my ring, and I have a set amount in mind, and I found the one I wanted but he was like “No, I want this one for you,” and it cost double what the one I picked out was (at least it was the same style, ).

You are more than welcome!!
Sarah @ TM2TS´s last blog ..Leftovers FTW

By: smileygirl18

smileygirl18 — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 08:24:26 +0000

1. yeah, I know. I don’t usually do it unless I run into her. Which I’m trying to avoid at all costs these days.
2. Honestly, I don’t want kids. Honest. I feel guilty about that sometimes, especially since I know that Tom would like to have kids.
3. I don’t think Tom will go for a JP wedding. That’s what his last one was. I would like a church, or somewhere outside that’s nice, if I could.
4. The ring is VERY important to Tom. It’s more about what he wants than what I want. I would be very happy with a $25 Platinum clad diamonique ring. He wants to get me a diamond because he got the rest of the girls diamonds and I’m more precious than they are. *sigh* When did what I want stop mattering?

Thanks for the hugs. *hugz*